HOW TO POSITIVELY DEAL WITH CRITICISM

Are there people in your life trying to put you down? Are there people in your life who won't stop criticizing you and discouraging you?

If so, congratulations; it means you are still alive.

Jesus was criticized a lot. Mother Teresa, who dedicated her life to eradicating poverty, helping the destitute and caring for the sick was also criticized. Criticism is inevitable; it's a part of life.

I'd like to share with you a bit of my experience. When I was in grade school, I received some negative and sarcastic remarks about my abilities and potential. Receiving an unexpected criticism from someone whom I thought would be a positive influence over my life discouraged me as a child. However, that hurtful event became a turning point in my life. After that incident, I said to myself, "When I grow up, I'd want to be somebody who BELIEVES in anybody's potential." That realization served as the catalyst for me to be so dedicated and passionate about helping others realize their potential, grow in love & cultivate God's joy in their lives.

So, here are some insights I've learned from dealing with criticism:

1. Distinguish whether it is a constructive criticism or a destructive criticism.

Constructive Criticism - usually comes from a place of love. From people who truly care about you. It's the healthy kind because it helps you welcome improvement and learn valuable insights such as humility and resilience. Realize that constructive criticism is an opportunity for personal growth.

Destructive Criticism- usually comes from a place of fear, insecurity, pain, bitterness & negativity. Understand that sometimes, hurt people project their feelings onto others.

2. Don't take it personally.

By realizing that most times, hurt people project their feelings onto others, it helps you easily extend compassion, take the higher road and rise above the situation.

3. Pray about it.

Ask God to help you forgive. Now this step could be easier said than done, especially if the hurtful event was severe. But this could be a beautiful opportunity to demonstrate compassion to people who judge and insult you.

4. Draw healthy boundaries.

Now, if someone is constantly putting you down, making you feel small & intentionally hurting you, you still have to forgive the person but you have to draw healthy boundaries to protect yourself. Remember, you can still love someone from a distance.

Lastly, always remember that pain can destroy you. Or it can motivate you. Choose wisely.

Much love,

Heart of V